In Vonnegut’s imaginary religion of Bokonon there is a phrase customarily said to the shy, which roughly translates as: It is not possible to make a mistake. When someone seems particularly uncomfortable socially I think it would be nice to think this really hard at them. I would appreciate it, at least.
Then again, the philosophical basis for this religion, like all of them, are ‘harmless’ lies intended to make life easier. So maybe not. J wrote ‘there are no mistakes’ and asked me what I thought of that. (T had replied, haha, You are mistaken.) I would like to think no, but am obviously not entirely convinced. But I certainly don’t want to start labeling things right and wrong, so I suppose I ought to deny the possibility of a mistake from the start, just to avoid the inevitable path of that logic.